There is Beauty in Pain.(period)

Oh the pleasure Sundays bring…some people do church or laundry or the central park thing. Maybe all of the above. I sometimes do. Hope you had a great weekend that made up for the hellish week, that some of you may have had. If not, guess who still has some time to improve on the quality of your life. That’s right, You. Moi. Us! All those things you have no control over, let it go. But do take control over your reaction to the not so nice gifts the world sends your way. Moving along…so I know that no one is ever excited about pain. Who can blame you. Pain is an unpleasant physical sensation, feeling of discomfort, emotional distress, and somebody or something troublesome (according to the world dictionary). Nothing is a Fabulous about any of that. However the treasures that pain brings forth is priceless. There is an extreme process to actually see the beauty of diamond. There is an extreme process to witness and feel the joy that a new born baby brings into a room full of strangers. Yes my darling there is even an extreme process in perfecting your amazingly arched brows. Point is, nothing worth having comes easy. What’s even more real is that you do not endure nothing you go through personally for yourselves. I know it sounds crazy but its true. Your story is for someone else. There is power in sharing your growing pains of life with someone who is going through what you went through. Actually you are required to share it with people. Why? It gives hope to someone who has just lost there mate, job, loved one, home, finances-whatever it is. If you are unable to see the Beauty that hope brings from your personal experience in pain. Than you have to do something that is a little more harder than sharing your pain…you have to let it go…Smooches doll & dudes!

The Power of Broken Language

Happy Tuesday people!! So although most of us talk everyday all day, except for the non-hearing (I’m secretly jealous of you guys-you can never say the wrong thing …plus you can smell a lie before anyone has a chance to give birth to it). Rarely do we pay attention to the language that we display with our actions. The seduction of language is oh so serious. How many times do we speak without thinking. Hands up please! Okay so both of my hands are up. But in my defense about two years ago both my hands and feet would have been up (progress is key). Although it may seem like no big deal especially if you are always saying the “right thing”. It is however one of those simple things that make a big impact. We apply the power of BEAUTY to everything else in our lives. Come on ladies! Our hair, skin, body, wardrobe, shoes and anything else that gives us visual pleasure. What about the words that come out of our mouths?!?! How many times do you speak beautifully? And no the focus is not on an extended vocabulary (although it doesn’t hurt to learn a new word every day). When you respond to a question that the person should already know the answer to does your response cut them to the brink of their stupidity? Or do you respond with the language that can build up and not tear down. We’ve heard it time and time again “it isn’t what you say its how you say it”. The words we’re using not only affects the people around us, but the birth givers of the speech. You. Moi. Us. We speak ourselves into more headaches than vacations. Think about it.
-I’m so tired
-These kids are getting on my nerves
-I am never going to pay this bill on time
-I can’t afford to go back to school

This is not some positive thinking exercise (nothing against them). It is a life practice of being conscious. My pastor once said that "what we speak is a reflection of what's in our hearts". Are our hearts (the organ that pumps lifes into our bodies literally every second) really that cold?I know they aren't. How about you utilize the power that God has given you and flip the base of your language. Not only for those around, but yourself as well. Everyone deserves to talk pretty to themselves…including you. Smooches (~_~)!

BEAUTIFUL Liar...

STOP! Seriously!! We must ALL STOP! Let’s cut the bullsh*t and never mourn over it again. And guess what! I am not even referring to you telling little white lies, stories or whatever we chose to design the un-truth in, for the people in our life. I am expressing my concern for the ultimate individual at risk. That’s correct. You. Moi. Us!! Come on guys don’t act cute now. There are a few of you who have mastered the BEAUTY of being completely honest with yourselves. And than there is the rest of the world who doesn’t even realize that we are shorting ourselves because of laziness and fear. This is not a time to feel sorry or beat ourselves up over the dishonesty. But it is indeed an opportunity to increase our quality of life. It’s not even worth it to give examples because its bigger than the lie. Search for the truth before you don’t want to deal with it. We have no idea how uncomfortable we make ourselves conforming to make those around us (especially the one in the mirror) comfortable. Remember the person you are. What you want/wanted to be. What truly makes you happy, more importantly what makes you unhappy. I know you guys may have thought that I was going to go into another direction…but sometimes that’s a lie too. Looking at ourselves in the mirror and believing what we appear to be. I have a great career, so I appear to be successful. My wife cooks and clean, so I appear to be happy. I found a great dress for my size, so I appear to be comfortable with my weight. MAC sold me the perfect concealer, so yeah I am okay with the blemishes on my face. Stop lying!! And please don’t beat yourself up for dealing with the issues by lying to yourself. We all do it. Even after I publish this, I will most likely still struggle. But the greater struggle will be for the quality of my life, not the comfort of what I am used to. Here is some certified straight from ya girl truth for you. I want to live in Paris for a year! So WHAT I don’t speak French. So what are you waiting on.?I dare you to honestly remember what you want for your life and stop submitting to those BEAUTIFUL lies…Smooches

Yesterday WAS Yesterday

Happy Friday Guys!! I hope you all had an amazing week. I woke up at like 5:30am this morning, and surprisingly was well rested. The brain was in high gear and I have yet to even get out of the bed. So many thoughts about life and the Beauty that it is. Unfortunately we sometimes get stuck in moments that were created to be just that. A moment. Whether it was a sad and depressing moment that we want to stay in just because we have gone insane for 5 minutes and forgot about how amazingly Fabulous we are. You got dumped. Your bank account is on E, and the bills are piling up. It can even be the most intensely satisfying moment when everything is going great. You got the jeans you wanted and you didn’t pay full price. You got the job you wanted, and they’ve given you a higher salary than you expected. Point is life happens in cycles and the next moment won’t be the same. How often do we “F” ourselves mentally not only causing headaches (cause we send our brainwaves into overdrive trying to make since of something that we aren’t even supposed to be stressing), but not to mention fine lines on our foreheads when we make those not so flattering facial expressions. Let’s be honest there is nothing cute about that. Soooo…dudes & dudettes, how about we all attempt to just get over it, even if it was the most Fabulous moment that you have never seen before. WHY?! Well because the next moment that you are going to be blessed with may hold something so dear and precious as a simple smile to a stranger who doesn’t even have someone to talk to. But we get so stuck in people and places and things that we may miss it. The truth is that it is awesome to celebrate and enjoy the moments we may never see again. However you have got to believe that your life is more than moments that satisfy you. What about things that we do that have an impact on people we don’t even know. I know, I know we can’t be everything to everybody but how will we know if we aren’t a blessing to ourselves and get over sh*t. Seriously. Yesterday WAS Yesterday. We can not go back and re-live the moment, nor do we have the power to change anything that has happened already. But there is some good news. We can all practice the gift of life! I know it sounds simple, of course we’re breathing. But are we living? Its not deep at all so don’t make that face that will give you lines sooner than necessary. Living most certainly requires you to enjoy the great moments in life. But a bigger part of living is expecting even greater moments whether it’s in a city you never heard of, or with a person you’ve never seen before. Think about this. You’ve never seen this moment before in your life. As you are reading this where ever you may be, doing whatever it is that tickles your fancy. This second right now is new. The most Beautiful thing of all about that is as long as there is breath in your body, there are so many more moments to come. One of the benefits of the moments is the lessons they sometimes bring. Have a Beautilicious day!!

Congradulations!!

I've decided to take a moment to acknowledge all of you who are not only visionaries and dreamers, but movers and shakers. Not only do you see yourself in the future but you do everything in your power to make it happen. When the nay sayers come your way you don't have time to engage in them, because you are doing you. So take a bow all of you amazingly Fabulous dolls, and Charismatic gents. This blog is dedicated to the beauty of you. I love the celebs and may dibble and dabble in the motivation and inspiration from them, but I will leave the reporting to The Young Black & Fabulous doll who does it very well. I hope you guys will indulge with me as I experience the Beauty of life with the gift of fearlessness, and the grace of God. What's first on the agenda. Duh!?! YOU silly billy. A super duper go you to the single mothers! Another one to the single fathers! Go you to the one who took whatever test 5 times before passing it and didn't let the obstacle of an easy win discourage them from losing permanently. Shout out to all my girls who wear 4 inch stilettos everyday effortlessly. Brava ladies!! Go you to all of those who packed up there bags and headed to another city, state (BJ I'm proud of you), country by themselves with nothing but the ambition of expecting their dreams to come to pass.Go you to those of you who had the strength to leave a toxic relationship and love you a little more. A super duper go you to everyone who has a dream and refuses to let anyone take it from them. Hip Hip Hooray...get out your dancing shoes and celebrate yet another day of living and learning. Most importantly dreaming!