There is Beauty in Pain.(period)

Oh the pleasure Sundays bring…some people do church or laundry or the central park thing. Maybe all of the above. I sometimes do. Hope you had a great weekend that made up for the hellish week, that some of you may have had. If not, guess who still has some time to improve on the quality of your life. That’s right, You. Moi. Us! All those things you have no control over, let it go. But do take control over your reaction to the not so nice gifts the world sends your way. Moving along…so I know that no one is ever excited about pain. Who can blame you. Pain is an unpleasant physical sensation, feeling of discomfort, emotional distress, and somebody or something troublesome (according to the world dictionary). Nothing is a Fabulous about any of that. However the treasures that pain brings forth is priceless. There is an extreme process to actually see the beauty of diamond. There is an extreme process to witness and feel the joy that a new born baby brings into a room full of strangers. Yes my darling there is even an extreme process in perfecting your amazingly arched brows. Point is, nothing worth having comes easy. What’s even more real is that you do not endure nothing you go through personally for yourselves. I know it sounds crazy but its true. Your story is for someone else. There is power in sharing your growing pains of life with someone who is going through what you went through. Actually you are required to share it with people. Why? It gives hope to someone who has just lost there mate, job, loved one, home, finances-whatever it is. If you are unable to see the Beauty that hope brings from your personal experience in pain. Than you have to do something that is a little more harder than sharing your pain…you have to let it go…Smooches doll & dudes!

The Power of Broken Language

Happy Tuesday people!! So although most of us talk everyday all day, except for the non-hearing (I’m secretly jealous of you guys-you can never say the wrong thing …plus you can smell a lie before anyone has a chance to give birth to it). Rarely do we pay attention to the language that we display with our actions. The seduction of language is oh so serious. How many times do we speak without thinking. Hands up please! Okay so both of my hands are up. But in my defense about two years ago both my hands and feet would have been up (progress is key). Although it may seem like no big deal especially if you are always saying the “right thing”. It is however one of those simple things that make a big impact. We apply the power of BEAUTY to everything else in our lives. Come on ladies! Our hair, skin, body, wardrobe, shoes and anything else that gives us visual pleasure. What about the words that come out of our mouths?!?! How many times do you speak beautifully? And no the focus is not on an extended vocabulary (although it doesn’t hurt to learn a new word every day). When you respond to a question that the person should already know the answer to does your response cut them to the brink of their stupidity? Or do you respond with the language that can build up and not tear down. We’ve heard it time and time again “it isn’t what you say its how you say it”. The words we’re using not only affects the people around us, but the birth givers of the speech. You. Moi. Us. We speak ourselves into more headaches than vacations. Think about it.
-I’m so tired
-These kids are getting on my nerves
-I am never going to pay this bill on time
-I can’t afford to go back to school

This is not some positive thinking exercise (nothing against them). It is a life practice of being conscious. My pastor once said that "what we speak is a reflection of what's in our hearts". Are our hearts (the organ that pumps lifes into our bodies literally every second) really that cold?I know they aren't. How about you utilize the power that God has given you and flip the base of your language. Not only for those around, but yourself as well. Everyone deserves to talk pretty to themselves…including you. Smooches (~_~)!

BEAUTIFUL Liar...

STOP! Seriously!! We must ALL STOP! Let’s cut the bullsh*t and never mourn over it again. And guess what! I am not even referring to you telling little white lies, stories or whatever we chose to design the un-truth in, for the people in our life. I am expressing my concern for the ultimate individual at risk. That’s correct. You. Moi. Us!! Come on guys don’t act cute now. There are a few of you who have mastered the BEAUTY of being completely honest with yourselves. And than there is the rest of the world who doesn’t even realize that we are shorting ourselves because of laziness and fear. This is not a time to feel sorry or beat ourselves up over the dishonesty. But it is indeed an opportunity to increase our quality of life. It’s not even worth it to give examples because its bigger than the lie. Search for the truth before you don’t want to deal with it. We have no idea how uncomfortable we make ourselves conforming to make those around us (especially the one in the mirror) comfortable. Remember the person you are. What you want/wanted to be. What truly makes you happy, more importantly what makes you unhappy. I know you guys may have thought that I was going to go into another direction…but sometimes that’s a lie too. Looking at ourselves in the mirror and believing what we appear to be. I have a great career, so I appear to be successful. My wife cooks and clean, so I appear to be happy. I found a great dress for my size, so I appear to be comfortable with my weight. MAC sold me the perfect concealer, so yeah I am okay with the blemishes on my face. Stop lying!! And please don’t beat yourself up for dealing with the issues by lying to yourself. We all do it. Even after I publish this, I will most likely still struggle. But the greater struggle will be for the quality of my life, not the comfort of what I am used to. Here is some certified straight from ya girl truth for you. I want to live in Paris for a year! So WHAT I don’t speak French. So what are you waiting on.?I dare you to honestly remember what you want for your life and stop submitting to those BEAUTIFUL lies…Smooches